Bullying of Danny
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info@auraclemusic.co.uk - 22 Jul 2007 09:54 GMT I think a number of you are being overly nasty in your comments against Danny's book draft. This is a man who has suffered greatly at the hands of PEOPLE -- not thunderstorms. People can willfully harm someone -- thunderstorms can't.
I would submit that you look closely at your own motivations for discounting what he has to say. Are you current NASA employees? Are you afraid that your world view will disintegrate if you acknowledge that such things as bullying exist? Until you walk in another man's shoes, perhaps it might be best not to judge him so harshly.
Cheers, catface
Jimbob Jumpback - 22 Jul 2007 14:57 GMT
>I would submit that you look closely at your own motivations for >discounting what he has to say. Are you current NASA employees? Are [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] >Cheers, >catface I have been handicapped all of my life. I fell at work in 2000 and among other injuries, I broke my knee. Since I have suffered from depression, and a host of other ailments. My previous employer left me dangling in the wind after 6 months. I haven't written a book, nor erected a web site chronicling my ill treatment. Danny needs to do what the several shrinks have told him to do, and let it go. Live deals you some bad cards, but one must accept responsibility for his own actions and get on with his life having learned his lessons. I read Danny's work, and by his own hand has written facts that state that NASA dealt with him very fairly. Healing takes place when one pulls himself up by the bootstraps and goes to therapy (either physical or mental) and continues on with his life. The writings may be cathartic, but are best kept private for his accusations and his writings don't match up. Danny seems more comfortable wallowing in his self pity, too bad, because he seems to have so much to offer.
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Danny Deger - 22 Jul 2007 17:06 GMT > >I would submit that you look closely at your own motivations for > >discounting what he has to say. Are you current NASA employees? Are [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > >Cheers, > >catface Thanks for the kind words. In spite of how the tone of my posts come across, I am having fun here. I must say having iron clad documentation helps a lot. Without it I wouldn't have a case at all.
Danny Dege
tdadamemd-spamblock-@excite.com - 22 Jul 2007 18:55 GMT >From catface: > I think a number of you are being overly nasty in your comments > against Danny's book draft. This is a man who has suffered greatly at > the hands of PEOPLE -- not thunderstorms. People can willfully harm > someone -- thunderstorms can't. Pain can be inflicted. But suffering requires the necessary ingredient of self pity.
'Thunderstorm' was a metaphor. Danny's flight lead was a person. Danny believes that this person tried to kill him. If you were a military pilot, catface, you would understand how ludicrous this belief is.
As for suffering at NASA, Danny could have easily circumvented the situation at several stages. He chose to battle it head on. He lost. Big surprise.
> I would submit that you look closely at your own motivations for > discounting what he has to say. Are you current NASA employees? Are > you afraid that your world view will disintegrate if you acknowledge > that such things as bullying exist? Until you walk in another man's > shoes, perhaps it might be best not to judge him so harshly. Actually I have faced similar situations. I chose a much different strategy for dealing with them.
~ CT
tdadamemd-spamblock-@excite.com - 22 Jul 2007 19:33 GMT I wrote:
> 'Thunderstorm' was a metaphor. Danny's flight lead was a person. > Danny believes that this person tried to kill him. If you were a > military pilot, catface, you would understand how ludicrous this > belief is. Danny corrected me on the other thread. For some reason I remembered "this almost killed me" as an attempt to kill. But my comments about alternatives to situations of this type still apply. And that holds whether or not the pain inflicted is intentional.
~ CT
Danny Deger - 22 Jul 2007 19:42 GMT On Jul 22, 12:55 pm, tdadamemd-spamblo...@excite.com wrote:
> >From catface: snip
> 'Thunderstorm' was a metaphor. Danny's flight lead was a person. > Danny believes that this person tried to kill him. If you were a > military pilot, catface, you would understand how ludicrous this > belief is. This is total nonsense. I said I thought he tried to fly a pattern tighter than I could so I would be embarrassed by not flying a good pattern. I clearly stated in my book no one knew an F-4 flying into another F-4's wake turbulence would cause a loss of control. I didn't think so or I wouldn't have flown into his wake turbulence. Please stick to the facts.
To all that don't want to find the section in my book, I have attached the section of my book below.
> As for suffering at NASA, Danny could have easily circumvented the > situation at several stages. He chose to battle it head on. He > lost. Big surprise. This is true. Up to this point I have lost. But because NASA left a document trail, I have a chance of exposing their misconduct and violations of state and federal laws in how they treated me.
Danny Deger
Here is the section of my book on my near miss by flying into leads wake turbulence. I do NOT state I think lead was trying to kill me.
The normal way to land is what is called the overhead break. The number 2 plane is put on the side opposite of the break and the formation flies down the runway at about 1,500 feet altitude. As the formation passes over the runway lead breaks and number 2 stays level for a few seconds. After the delay, number 2 breaks. One of the rules was number 2 can not fly a pattern further from the runway than lead. One day this almost killed me. Lead did a very aggressive break. By this I mean he makes a small/tight turn. I followed. If you are too close to the runway, you can't make the turn and you overshoot. I knew I was closer than I ever had been in my life, and I was going to have to make a maximum performance turn to final. At the proper time, I started a turn at the optimum Angle Of Attack, AOA. The F-4 had an audio feed back on AOA and had a nice solid tone in the head set when on the optimum AOA. I was inside lead's turn to start off with, so I am out of his wake turbulence. But, I must go right into the center of his wake turbulence to line up on the runway. Wake turbulence is like small horizontal tornadoes that can cause huge roll rates if you get into one. Normally, a fighter can fly into another fighter's wake turbulence without any big problems. But lead was doing a more aggressive turn than usual which made his wake stronger. Then I was at a higher than normal angle of attack with decreased my aileron effectiveness. The end result was when I hit his wake turbulence, I rolled instantly about 120 degrees to the left. I knew I was in big trouble. Fortunately my training and instincts kicked in. At a high angle of attack, the F-4 does not roll well. I needed to get the AOA down. To do this I pushed the stick full forward until it hit its stop. At the same time I gave the plane full right rudder. About the time my controls become effective, I left my lead's wake turbulence and rolled quickly back to the right. I overshot the roll a lot and ended up in about 90 degrees of roll to the right. The AOA was down by now, so the ailerons start to work. With left aileron and left rudder I brought the plane back to level flight and actually made a good landing without having to go around. The roll excursions lasted a second or two at the most and I was still on glide slope and on the centerline of the runway. My WSO told me after landing he was reaching for the ejection handle as I was fighting for control. Before he could pull the handle, I had the plane back under control. I am glad he didn't have time. At our altitude and roll angles, we probably would not have had time for the chutes could open before we hit the ground. What was strange for me at the time was the lack of interest in what happened. We were well trained to avoid the wake of heavy airplanes, but the general thought was the wake turbulence of another F-4 was not dangerous. I asked that the Tactical Air Command safety organization be brought in to get the word out that if the pattern is flown too aggressively, lead's wake turbulence could be deadly. My request was denied. I requested the topic be brought up at the next wing safety briefing. Again my request was denied. I didn't at the time understand why loosing control in the traffic pattern would not be of interest to the F-4 safety community. Now I think I know why. Leads are not supposed to fly such a tight pattern. He was very likely attempting to embarrass me by flying a pattern tighter than he thought I could. Even if his overly aggressive pattern was not meant to embarrass me, he was at fault for the near miss. It wasn't my favorite lead, John "Lips" Fraley, but it was a respected flight lead of the squadron. If you are part of the in crowd, you can screw up and not be called on the mistake. If you are not in the in crowd, every tiny issue is blown out of proportion and used to further damage your reputation. Being in a fighter squadron was just like being back in junior high.
kev9000 - 22 Jul 2007 20:19 GMT > Pain can be inflicted. But suffering requires the necessary > ingredient of self pity. Idiot.
Danny Deger - 22 Jul 2007 20:27 GMT > > Pain can be inflicted. But suffering requires the necessary > > ingredient of self pity. > > Idiot. I agree. I understand this quote was over the doors of the Spanish Inquisition :-)
Danny Deger
tdadamemd-spamblock-@excite.com - 23 Jul 2007 10:21 GMT >From Danny Dot: > [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > I agree. I understand this quote was over the doors of the Spanish > Inquisition :-) On another thread, Danny, you had just thanked me for not insulting you, yet you are quick to support someone who insults me. Bullying takes many forms. It appears you are sensitive to the kind that is directed only at you.
Now for anyone who might want an explanation of my statement being criticized above, I will ask...
Is suffering a necessary result of pain? The Buddha taught that suffering was the result of being too attached to our mortal existence. Master Yoda taught that suffering was the result of fear, hate and anger. Attachment can be seen as a type of fear. A fear of death. So both teachings can be seen as the same.
Many people live their lives with the belief that suffering can be inflicted on them. It is clear that pain can be inflicted. Wise ones have taught that it is only *your view* toward that pain that can turn it into suffering.
There is also the story about Jesus when after being nailed to the cross he died with a smile on his face. The day before MLK was shot, he gave a speech talking about how he was being bullied with death threats. He could have taken the path of fear and suffering but instead his message was:
"Well, I don't know what will happen now. We've got some difficult days ahead. But it doesn't matter with me now. Because I've been to the mountaintop. And I don't mind. Like anybody, I would like to live a long life. Longevity has its place. But I'm not concerned about that now. I just want to do God's will. And He's allowed me to go up to the mountain. And I've looked over. And I've seen the promised land. I may not get there with you. But I want you to know tonight, that we, as a people, will get to the promised land. And I'm happy, tonight. I'm not worried about anything. I'm not fearing any man. Mine eyes have seen the glory of the coming of the Lord."
So whether someone is driving nails into you or pumping bullets into you or just doing things at the office to you that you don't like... whatever pain level you are experiencing, it is your attitude toward that pain that will determine whether it results in you suffering.
~ CT
Danny Deger - 23 Jul 2007 15:44 GMT On Jul 23, 4:21 am, tdadamemd-spamblo...@excite.com wrote:
> >From Danny Dot: > [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > takes many forms. It appears you are sensitive to the kind that is > directed only at you. This is the way a "real" relationship works. Sometimes you agree and sometimes you don't. Unlike the relationship with a bully that is all negative.
BTW, did my comment cause you pain or suffering :-)
I did like the write up you give. It is almost straight out of the teachings of Buddha as well as the references you quote. One of my problems I think through the years was too much literal use of turning the other cheek. When working with bullies, it doesn't work when applied literally and I now I don't think Jesus meant it as a literally thing to do if one is working with a bully. I now believe it is OK to openly confront a bully.
Danny Deger snip
tdadamemd-spamblock-@excite.com - 23 Jul 2007 16:12 GMT >From Danny Dot: > On Jul 23, 4:21 am, tdadamemd-spamblo...@excite.com wrote: [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > > BTW, did my comment cause you pain or suffering :-) Having an understanding why people act with a lack of kindness can yield a response of empathy toward others instead of hurt toward oneself.
The other way to prevent being hurt is to become callous. But that just turns you into a person who hurts others.
But the answer to your question is 'no'. I feel like I understand where you're coming from. As for kev9k, I don't know him very well, but I have an idea about where he's coming from as well. I expect that he is a person who has experienced a large dose of hurt, whether in numerous small quantities or several large quantities. I imagine that he read my statement as a complete inability to relate to where he's at.
> I did like the write up you give. It is almost straight out of the > teachings of Buddha as well as the references you quote. One of my [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > literally thing to do if one is working with a bully. I now believe > it is OK to openly confront a bully. I disagree with the turn-the-other-cheek teaching as well. It is a display that is tinged with arrogance. I consider it healthier and more effective to point out the cheek that was struck, because that is where the problem occurred. Displaying the unstruck cheek is a form of escalation.
I agree in confronting an action that has caused you harm. But there are many ways to confront that makes the situation worse. Confronting in a manner that defuses the situation requires much more care. And again, if there are repeated patterns that can be predicted, then there are ways to just avoid such problems altogether.
~ CT
Danny Deger - 23 Jul 2007 16:46 GMT On Jul 23, 10:12 am, tdadamemd-spamblo...@excite.com wrote:
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>Displaying the unstruck cheek is a form > of escalation. We can agree on this one. I wish my Sunday School teacher had taught me this when I was young. I spent the first 48 years of my life displaying the unstruck cheek and my experience is the problem escalated.
Danny Deger snip
Jeff Findley - 23 Jul 2007 15:58 GMT >I think a number of you are being overly nasty in your comments > against Danny's book draft. This is a man who has suffered greatly at > the hands of PEOPLE -- not thunderstorms. People can willfully harm > someone -- thunderstorms can't. I'm sure this book that's based on his life hasn't been fact checked in any way shape or form by anyone but Danny. So, by reading this book, you're only getting one side of the story. Without actually talking to the very people Danny worked with at NASA, you can't get both sides of the story, and there are always two sides to every story with the truth somewhere inbetween.
Jeff
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Danny Deger - 23 Jul 2007 16:57 GMT On Jul 23, 9:58 am, "Jeff Findley" <jeff.find...@ugs.nojunk.com> wrote:
> <i...@auraclemusic.co.uk> wrote in message > [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > there are always two sides to every story with the truth somewhere > inbetween. Actually, you can read a major part of their side. My conduct in 1999 was carefully documented by my management at the time. I provide a complete copy on my web site and as an appendix to in my book. It does show an angry employee, but not one that made open homicidal threats which is what NASA told about me to local authorities in 1999. I also have many documents copied and available for review. I would not have bothered to write the book if I didn't have documentation. The story is hard to believe without it. I still find it hard to believe an agency of the Federal government would lie to local officials and participate in a person being denied due process. In my recent sick leave problems, people told lie after lie, but I didn't bother to mention them in my book. I have attempted to make sure my accusations of misconduct are backed up with documentation.
Danny Deger www.dannydeger.net
Jeff Findley - 23 Jul 2007 21:58 GMT > On Jul 23, 9:58 am, "Jeff Findley" <jeff.find...@ugs.nojunk.com> > wrote: [quoted text clipped - 29 lines] > didn't bother to mention them in my book. I have attempted to make > sure my accusations of misconduct are backed up with documentation. I've worked with at least one person who was pretty much intolerable to work with. After a few years of putting up with the grief that this caused me, I talked to my manager about this employee. It was clear that this employee had been talked to many times, but that the company would never take steps to terminate this employee due to fear of being sued. The official record never tells the whole story.
All I'm saying is that your book is obviously written from your point of view. As someone famous once said, "many of the truths we cling to depend greatly on our own point of view". :-)
Jeff
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Danny Deger - 23 Jul 2007 23:03 GMT On Jul 23, 3:58 pm, "Jeff Findley" <jeff.find...@ugs.nojunk.com> wrote: snip
> All I'm saying is that your book is obviously written from your point of > view. As someone famous once said, "many of the truths we cling to depend > greatly on our own point of view". :-) > > Jeff The last I checked, all books are written from the point of view of the author :-)
Danny Deger
Jeff Findley - 24 Jul 2007 18:21 GMT > On Jul 23, 3:58 pm, "Jeff Findley" <jeff.find...@ugs.nojunk.com> > wrote: [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > The last I checked, all books are written from the point of view of > the author :-) Certainly, but if you want your book classified as non-fiction, it's not a bad thing to run it by an independent fact checker who may actually want to call up some of the people you mention in your book. Of course, there are some really bad books out there which are "based on actual events". It's never a black or white issue.
Jeff
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Derek Lyons - 24 Jul 2007 07:56 GMT >I think a number of you are being overly nasty in your comments >against Danny's book draft. This is a man who has suffered greatly at >the hands of PEOPLE -- not thunderstorms. People can willfully harm >someone -- thunderstorms can't. This is a man who _claims_ to have so suffered. (And it would be interesting to know why you take his claim at face value.) But his own writings and statements show him to be more than a little egotistical and self serving - which makes taking such claims at face value a little difficult. The same writing and statements show a persistent pattern of blaming others for every event, and very little taking responsibility for his own actions - - which makes taking such claims at face value a little difficult.
>I would submit that you look closely at your own motivations for >discounting what he has to say. Are you current NASA employees? Are >you afraid that your world view will disintegrate if you acknowledge >that such things as bullying exist? Nobody here has taken the position that workplace bullying doesn't exist. Nice strawman though.
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Jeff Findley - 24 Jul 2007 18:26 GMT >>I think a number of you are being overly nasty in your comments >>against Danny's book draft. This is a man who has suffered greatly at [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > taking responsibility for his own actions - - which makes taking such > claims at face value a little difficult. Yep. Many events in Danny's book start with him thinking he may have screwed up and caused some mishap, only to have the story unfold in such a way that he realized that he couldn't possibly have been wrong and the mishap was entirely someone else's fault. Following that, there is often a continuation of the thread where he trys to tell higher-ups this fact, but for one reason or another, they don't listen.
There certainly is a pattern going on in that book.
Jeff
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